Signs to tell if your Boyfriend is a Loser

The variation between dating a cute, underemployed and a cute, underemployed freeloader can be hard to differentiate. Is your man in an enduring slump? Here are signs to look out for and how to take control of the condition.

1. He is constantly Broke

Exhausted boyfriends are notorious for having lots of excuses about why they are constantly broke. The economy is bad, his previous boss was a jerk, he’s waiting for the check to come in, etc. What they do not have, however, is a plan to turn their financial condition around.

2. He’s Lazy

Do you depart the house in the morning while he is still under the covers and come home to locate him parked on the couch? If he is constantly on playing video games, or even if it’s just a small thing like not changing the empty toilet paper roll when it’s out, sluggishness and an extreme lack of enthusiasm are definite signs of deadbeat behavior.

3.  He’s inconsistent

You may love that he is a rebel, but if the guy you are dating frequently demonstrates shady tendencies, like disappearing for days, binge drinking, or staying out all night and refusing to tell you where he’s been, think yourself warned.

4.  He Lets You Support Him

No matter how loving he is, do not permit your boyfriend to live with you and not pay at least half of the rent and shared expenses. Similarly, no self-respecting man would let his girlfriend constantly take him out to dinner without ever reciprocating. If your boyfriend permits you to support him or needs your help to achieve even the most mundane of tasks, he might be classic DBB.

So what do you do?

Foremost, discontinue spending money on him and doing anything that he would or else have to pay someone to do. You may consider that you are helping, but, in the long run, by allowing him to mooch off of you. You are just enabling his behavior and giving him no reason to change. As an alternative, talk to him about how you feel and be firm that you is uncomfortable dating someone that is unemployed. Optimistically, if he has any sense, this should be enough to encourage him. However, if not, put him to work around the house and let him work off his share of duties by playing a role that women have played for decades, that of the housewife.